Change Your Thinking to Change Your Dog's Behavior

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Bad Behavior is only a Game.the game early, or start a different game with
I recently changed the way I think about training mysomething acceptable. So, I will get the towel from him,
dog. I have one of those high spirited dominate alphabut then bring him a ball and start a different game.
males who instinctively thinks he is the leader of theEventually, he will think about it, and bring me the ball
pack and is always testing my authority. I oftenwhen he wants to play instead of the towel.
thought, why is he so challenging, he knows he is notEmotions Tell Him What to Do
supposed to do that because I've told him "no" aIt seems everybody tells their dog "don't do this or
hundred times. Boomer, my dog, likes to steal thingsthat". What their dog hears is only "do this or that."
and be chased. To him it's a game, a fun activity thatDogs struggle with the concept of "don't do
he knows will get me going. He takes the towels fromsomething." To get your dog to stop doing something,
the hanger in the bathroom and flaunts it in front of me,simply distract him with a very brief sound and
stopping to make sure I see him before he runs off. Isomething else to do. He will learn after awhile. If you
found that if I ignore him, he just lays down and later Ijust stay on the theme of "don't do this or that" the
can get the towel from him. At first I thought that hesituation just continues to worsen, as the dog does
just made a mistake, but then I realized its just a gamewhat he knows or thinks is best for his home and you.
to him. The problem was that he never asked if IThe longer you continue the more confusing it is to him.
wanted to play, he just started a game of keep away.The more concerned you become about his behavior,
The mistakes my dog makes are neither mistakes northe more he believes you are worried and he is unsure
accidents. I just misunderstood the game, and evenabout the reason. Certainly if you're worried, then he
though it was fun to him, it wasn't necessarily fun forshould be mimic you and get worried also. He doesn't
me!even realize that it's his behavior you are worried
What's Right and Wrongabout.
As I thought about this game, I also realized that heHave you ever noticed that when you come home,
was challenging my role as leader of the pack, and myyour dog is really excited to see you, and that if you
ownership of the towel. Why shouldn't he own thereally become animated and excited, he becomes
towel, or have his own towel. It was an instinctiveeven more excited? That's because he plays off your
challenge to my leadership and authority. Also, I realizedemotions and actions. If you run, he runs; if you run
that nothing by itself is either good or bad, it's thinkingfaster, he runs faster.
that makes it so. If one can only remember back toDogs Learn by Repetition
our pre-school years and all the frustration and troubleDogs can learn and unlearn any behavior by repetition,
there was. That's because we were going through apreferably in four different but similar settings or
learning curve about what is right and wrong behavior.situations. The first time your dog hears a new
Your dog is new to your world and it's perception ofcommand, he has no idea what is being requested.
right and wrong are different. It's perfectly acceptableThe second time he hears that command, he begins to
from a dog's perspective to pick anything up and claimcomprehend. The third time, he fully understands, but
ownership of it, whether it is a stick or anything else hehe may resist the new command.
found outside. The same is true indoors as well. It'sHe has to think it through to be sure he understands,
also OK in a dog's world to tear something apart,and it may take him a few moments to think it through.
chew it up, or destroy something, but not true in yourThis happens usually on the third request, or instance,
world.of trying to teach or break a behavior. So, when your
Be a Pack Leader and Change the Gamedog thinks about the new behavior being learned or
I was gaining insight into a dog's world and how a dogunlearned, praise and patience, are required during the
thinks, and now I was changing my thinking on how tofew moments it takes to correctly understand this
train them. Dogs are pack animals, and there is alwaysnew information. He needs time to think things out. He's
a pack leader, followers, and those that want to be thegoing to think about the idea, then glance at you. Then
pack leader. The alpha male or female grew up in aback to the idea, now thinking of you. Then think about
litter and learned that if it fights long enough and isthe idea, then think about you. Give him time to think
persistent that the others in the litter will yield. So, yourand comprehend. Allow his choice to dictate your next
dog will discover many options, then think about themove. Chances are, he's going to make one last try at
options, and either go along with you or subvert yourhaving his own way.
efforts to control him. Your alpha dog's job is toThere are only two choices he can make. He's either
oppose you and challenge your place as pack leader.going to do it correctly, or, he's going to do it wrong. If
Your dog wants you to be consistent in yourhe gets it wrong, try a similar setting or situation later in
responses otherwise he doesn't know what to think. Ifthe day. This process gives you the opportunity to
he starts playing a game with you, you have a choiceallow your dog to progress at his own speed. The third
not to play. The difficulty is that if you don't play he willtime your dog is given a command, he'll probably do it
either try harder, get depressed, try a different angleincorrectly just to see if you are going to be consistent.